Disclaimer( :D ): This post is purely based on the opinion of the author,not to hurt anyone personally.
Well, I have been waiting for a long time to make this post and let me not waste time to make a head start. Can you please define love for me? hmmm... ermmmm..... welllll...... ummmm...... well if that was your response then cool, you are right. Love is not something that can be defined or described in words (now please dont pluck a meaning from the oxford dictionary and tell me,LOL). Love is something like say music, a serene emotion that chills your nerves,mutes your brain and amplifies your heart's voice. It cannot be defined but can only be expressed. Now comes the question why this topic out of nowhere, well I dunno :)
If you are in love already then just think about these please! Of late love has taken a new turn of issues of its own,especially in a place like my college. I have heard people getting into "four years commitment" (well i dont know if its really true but i am taking the case that what if its really true). They hang out at juicy,snacky or whatever hot spot you could come up with( sorry i am very poor in this aspect) or take a bus to chatram or CBS and hang out everywhere in and around the campus and in the city. I dont blame them because its their personal issue and I have no right to infringe upon it. But do you call it "love"? Honestly the term "Girl Friend" has a very big difference from "lover". Personally if you ask me, if at all you love in these years(i mean when you are still a student) then its not time to take a decision on your future as you are not mature enough to get a glimpse of what is beyond marriage. You need to think of living with this person for an entire life. But you love this person very much and cant think of a life without them so what to do now, its quite simple- tell them your opinion and wait for their response. If it is that he/she shares the same feeling for you then go ahead and do whatever to care for him/her and let both of you let the love for each other grow in the care for the other person. ( Would you please excuse me to use she and her instead of he/she and him/her- its really troubling) You indeed dream of a life with each other but you never know what may happen in the future and Parents are always there with their opinion. If they give you a positive reply then all is fine but if they are not going to be happy with it then real trouble sheds in. Of course you may argue saying that its your life and you cant live without her but most often than not it so turns out to be that she has to abide her parents' opinion and marry the one they choose. I have seen enough issues practically to say this and its not to blame the girl. She loved you truly but she loved her dear parents even more. Here comes the pain. Some people just dust their shirts from their fall and move on for the next girl without even thinking about what has just happened( i would put them along with "four year love" category and talk about them later) but the ones who are hit very much by this just think! You have dreamt of a great life with her and it so turns out more often than not that our imagination becomes permanently fixed upon her and you may not want to think of another girl while you still have HER in your heart. But its a point of no return, you have to train your heart to accept the fact and move on in life. So coming to the students, its better not to assume anything atleast for the time being but do shower your care and affection for her. Let her feel comfortable with you may be as a good friend as of now and wait till you become mature enough to think of marriage and life beyond. So wait is the order of the day. ( Parents are the ones who brought us to this world and i assume that everyone loves them the best, if not my apologies)
Coming to others, now you people have great time with your girl in the short period of time but the loyalty for your future life partner and the integrity of your love towards that person is under stake. For people abiding humanity and its values it should really be hurting and for others "All The Best!".
So if you have fallen in love and if its really true then "care" is the best response(atleast according to me).
Hope I meant some sense in this post. Do visit often. TC
PS: The following is a late addition to this post :) . I received this as an SMS hope it makes good sense:
" When you like someone,you tend to be with them always, possessiveness grooms,time flies,you smile when they are happy and cry when they are sad. But one day when you realize that they were never meant to be for you - you are left with tears and a heavy heart. Cherish it because love is not only in happiness, it is felt more when you accept the grief emanating from it."
Picture courtesy:http://www.americanmademarketplace.com
Well, I have been waiting for a long time to make this post and let me not waste time to make a head start. Can you please define love for me? hmmm... ermmmm..... welllll...... ummmm...... well if that was your response then cool, you are right. Love is not something that can be defined or described in words (now please dont pluck a meaning from the oxford dictionary and tell me,LOL). Love is something like say music, a serene emotion that chills your nerves,mutes your brain and amplifies your heart's voice. It cannot be defined but can only be expressed. Now comes the question why this topic out of nowhere, well I dunno :)
If you are in love already then just think about these please! Of late love has taken a new turn of issues of its own,especially in a place like my college. I have heard people getting into "four years commitment" (well i dont know if its really true but i am taking the case that what if its really true). They hang out at juicy,snacky or whatever hot spot you could come up with( sorry i am very poor in this aspect) or take a bus to chatram or CBS and hang out everywhere in and around the campus and in the city. I dont blame them because its their personal issue and I have no right to infringe upon it. But do you call it "love"? Honestly the term "Girl Friend" has a very big difference from "lover". Personally if you ask me, if at all you love in these years(i mean when you are still a student) then its not time to take a decision on your future as you are not mature enough to get a glimpse of what is beyond marriage. You need to think of living with this person for an entire life. But you love this person very much and cant think of a life without them so what to do now, its quite simple- tell them your opinion and wait for their response. If it is that he/she shares the same feeling for you then go ahead and do whatever to care for him/her and let both of you let the love for each other grow in the care for the other person. ( Would you please excuse me to use she and her instead of he/she and him/her- its really troubling) You indeed dream of a life with each other but you never know what may happen in the future and Parents are always there with their opinion. If they give you a positive reply then all is fine but if they are not going to be happy with it then real trouble sheds in. Of course you may argue saying that its your life and you cant live without her but most often than not it so turns out to be that she has to abide her parents' opinion and marry the one they choose. I have seen enough issues practically to say this and its not to blame the girl. She loved you truly but she loved her dear parents even more. Here comes the pain. Some people just dust their shirts from their fall and move on for the next girl without even thinking about what has just happened( i would put them along with "four year love" category and talk about them later) but the ones who are hit very much by this just think! You have dreamt of a great life with her and it so turns out more often than not that our imagination becomes permanently fixed upon her and you may not want to think of another girl while you still have HER in your heart. But its a point of no return, you have to train your heart to accept the fact and move on in life. So coming to the students, its better not to assume anything atleast for the time being but do shower your care and affection for her. Let her feel comfortable with you may be as a good friend as of now and wait till you become mature enough to think of marriage and life beyond. So wait is the order of the day. ( Parents are the ones who brought us to this world and i assume that everyone loves them the best, if not my apologies)
Coming to others, now you people have great time with your girl in the short period of time but the loyalty for your future life partner and the integrity of your love towards that person is under stake. For people abiding humanity and its values it should really be hurting and for others "All The Best!".
So if you have fallen in love and if its really true then "care" is the best response(atleast according to me).
Hope I meant some sense in this post. Do visit often. TC
PS: The following is a late addition to this post :) . I received this as an SMS hope it makes good sense:
" When you like someone,you tend to be with them always, possessiveness grooms,time flies,you smile when they are happy and cry when they are sad. But one day when you realize that they were never meant to be for you - you are left with tears and a heavy heart. Cherish it because love is not only in happiness, it is felt more when you accept the grief emanating from it."
Picture courtesy:http://www.americanmademarketplace.com
3 comments:
Nice post! Well written :)
(By the way could you change your commenting options to let anyone comment? Many people use a wordpress account or OpenID like myself and don't prefer to use their blogger account to link! Just a suggestion for more flexibility!)
ya sure thats not a problem at all. thanks 4 ur suggestion :)
So what do we have here. A mature intake on the relationship... Is it from personal experience or due to the frustration of being single ?? ;)
Just kidding... What you have said is indeed true. Though i lack the experience to comment on Love, i found this to quote the "short term lovers"
"Goosebumps from a smile and butterflies from a touch; warmed by friendship and heated by lust"
Regarding true love, i feel this post might give some insight:
http://argetslam.blogspot.com/2008/06/for-everyone-who-wants-to-achieve.html
Good thoughts from an young mind... Keep thinking ;)
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